Personally I have avoided giving "do it right" advice for about a year now. For one, no one listens any ways until after they are on the trail with an exploded 35 that welded, or a suspension that has ripped itself apart.
Secondly, no matter how you try to explain it, you are a know it all bunghole for recommending anything other then what the OP wants to run in the first place.
I have spent hundreds of hours over the years explaining to dozens of people how to do proper suspension, steering, maintenance, and drivetrain. I can honestly say only a handfull have ever walked away and actually put that advice to use right away.
I cant count how many left my shop, bolted in their cheap crap after I advised them not to, only to see them selling said cheap crap a while later and finally go with quality components.
Johnny, your analogy is messed up. The idea is that you do your individual mods right, and do them once. So to answer your question, you've done your axle "right", and Fraser has done his suspension "right".
Short arm versus long arm, and 44's versus 8.8's are just peoples preference and both can be done right, or wrong.
You slap a stock drum brake 373 8.8 under a SOA YJ with a SBC and 39's. You fail.
Throw the same axle under a YJ with 33's and you've done it right.
Long arm a stock rubicon on 31's with rough country suspension. Fail
Short a stock rubi with johnny joint suspension. Done right.
Throw a custom inverted T steering set on a TJ cause its cheap. Wrong.
Throw a custom inverted T steering on a leaf sprung YJ. Done right.
Its a pretty simple concept. Take short cuts, or put round pegs in square holes, or cut costs where they shouldnt be cut and you are doing things wrong.
You dont have to be rich to build a jeep properly. Im proving that now with my YJ that has zero net dollars in it after purchase and is all set to be beadlocked on 35's, coil overed and linked in the front, spooled 44 rear, hp 30 aussie locked front, wj steering and brakes, chromo shafts, flat fendered, front and rear bumpers, and winched.
Gross cost to me when Im done including the trade I used to purchase it will be 6k once I include the d300 swap and tummy tuck.
I have little to no budget to work with so instead I just take my time and wait until I can do it right.