Alright here is what I found and what I did. Hopefully if someone else has this problem or tries to wire up some HIDS this will help.
Tested the DRL relay/module and found no power signal coming from the BCM to kick the low beam relay. it was recieving a swtiched ground signal from the BCM. Reports that I read online indicate that this is a common failure of the BCM.
Not wanting to take this old beater to a dealer I wired around the BCM. Attempt 1 was to simply supply 12v to the DRL/Low beam relay, this resulted in smoke and a melted wire. Opps,
2nd attempt. The hi beams still worked fine and used a 5 pin relay. I tapped power from the 87apin and ran it to a regular 4 pin relay. Then I ran wires from where the DRL relay for battery power, power out to lights, and the grnd signal from the BCM. When I turn the key on power goes from the #87a pin on the high beam relay to the #86 pin on the new low beam relay. Turning the headlight switch on sends a grnd signal from the BCM. out #85 to the #85 pin on the relay causing it to close and power the lights. Turning on the high beams causes the hi beam relay to close, opening the connection to 87a and causing the lows beams to go out,
Its butch but it works.