I'm no expert in fabricating, but I would (and will) only use DOM. I'm in the same boat wanting to do the fab work myself, but I don't want to skimp on the material.
As for bending, I picked up a manual bender for $80 on kijiji. For those mild bends, I figure it will be good. For Anything moer complicated, there are places that will bend for you and there guys in the club with nice benders - I would guess that they might do some bending for beer.