the edge kit (throttle body chip and CAI) has a decent seat of pants feel. Mopac is probably the best place to get it. The throttle response is better with it.
Cat back helped, but headers seemed to add more.
I believe the inlet to the muffler is 2 1/4". Most kits should be 2 1/4" in and 2 1/2" out. Magnaflow makes a pretty good kit, sounds good too. I might be wrong on this but if you do the whole exhaust you could go with 2 1/2" all the way. Just don't go too big as it won't help you.
They all help but it adds up quick. I'm still running 33's with 3.73 gears without too much trouble. It'll pull some hills in 5th still, can do 120 pretty easy on the highway, any slower and it bogs just a little, depends how windy it is. Still planning to re-gear anyways though.
If you've got money burning a hole in your pocket, go for it, won't hurt any. For highway driving I'd say it's worth it. I'm finding for some of the steep short climbs I could use a slower crawl speed though.