Man, entertaining read, but I'll only wade in half way, out of politeness to all involved.
A front suspension has X number of parts, of which, roughly 4/5 of X are designed to move (a little or a lot, doesn't matter).
Death wobble is always a collection of things that are not supposed to happen. Sure, one "fix" may cure it, for a while, but it will always return, and then it will be more parts because the original fix masked the other issues.
As for Bill and Jay; between the two of them, there is more mechanical know-how than most car dealerships have. Jay works on my Dodge truck, because he was highly recommended by at least 5 people, both on this forum, and off. Done. He wrenches on my daily driver/work commuter/heep hauler/money-maker. Why? Because he knows wtf he is doing, so I trust him with it!
Bill is the DW expert, because he is good at it! He looks at it from the 4x4 enthusiasts viewpoint, whereas a mechanic may not have that particular viewpoint experience. Big tires + large offset + just-good-enough-engineering-of-stock-components.
In this case, both have that viewpoint, both have the equipment to diagnose it, and when things are spinning, and moving 70+km/hr down the road, a visual inspection may not catch the issue!! We are talking about some things that have deviances in the thousandths of an inch!
Geometry is that, geometric. You mentioned it was in an accident between Bills viewing and Jays viewing. You quite likely have 1/3 of X out of whack/tolerance/worn/bad/no-good/etc. DW is an evil bastard, I agree, and sometimes it takes a lot of parts to cure it.
Anyways, nuff said.
Pat, not sure why you've gone this far pointing fingers, and speaking ill; but these are two well respected and knowledgeable people here. Both of which I respect and trust.
Need I say more?